May 24th, 2006


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I recently found some very old slides in a box of items from my brother he had passed back to me, as not of interest to him, from things they had pulled out of the house after Father died. In it were some pictures of my mother and of me, some old film strips (no idea what's there), various photos starting with my parents' wedding and stretching to my teen years.

The ones that are a little creepy are the ones from my parents wedding. These aren't the professional wedding photo shots that I've seen. I suspect my brother took them. There are odd things in some. Like the picture of my father looking pleased as he holds out my mother's hand, showing the ring, while she gazes away from him, looking stricken. It has all the aspects of one of those Victorian arranged-marriage studies. But viewing everything down the years, I suspect she already knew, on some level, she was a trophy wife, more possession than person, an aspect of the relationship that would haunt her down the years, and give her endless misery that she attempted to rationalize and push away.

But then there are the other ones. Pictures of her with me, as a baby--comment from a friend last night: "She looks so happy." Oh yes, absolutely radiant. As, also, in the photos of my third Christmas. This was the woman who claimed to hate Christmas, "I only did it for you when you were little" she told me when I was 11, but here she is, absolutely glowing. Then there is one in shadows, with her holding me, like a strange Mannerist painting of a Madonna and child.

The joys of motherhood were obviously enough to temporarily overrule the trauma that shadowed her. But little by little, as I grew closer to adulthood, the shadows started to close in, again... I want to trace some evolutions through photos, if I can find a reasonable photo record carrying through... It could be interesting.
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weird blocking software

Okay, I could almost see some of my Japanese sites being blocked as porn, because some of them contain the word "geisha," which seems to be a criteria. (Gaijin Geisha sells kanzashi, Japanese hair ornaments, so that's the only possible explanation...) However, I now find that is blocked. This is a shopping site for novelty socks. Again, it claims it's a porn site. Well, I guess I do have a sock fetish, but I didn't think it was quite that kind of fetish... I guess, if you're really perverse, you might get off on looking at pictures of feet in novelty socks, but c'mon...

I'm now wondering exactly *what* criteria some of this software uses...
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